Another blog about waiting…groan.
Waiting can be hard. I know.
But, I have to ask, does waiting for Mr. Right feels never ending?
Do you keep wondering if the wait will ever end?
Do you wish you had an end date working with?
Do you wonder if you have the practical skills that you will need when that time comes?
Today, you’re going to learn 3 important skills you need to acquire and put into action to be intentional and purposeful while you wait.
Yes, waiting can be hard.
But, If you wait with a plan and be willing to execute that plan, the wait becomes easier.
Ladies, before I share the 3 skills, let me say this
we mostly live in a culture that doesn’t prepare young women for marriage- we often don’t learn the skills in our families or if we do learn a little we don’t learn enough.
Truthfully, churches and schools don’t prepare you. Most mothers aren’t preparing their daughters for marriage (some are single mothers, working endlessly to make ends meet or some just don’t know how having never learnt themselves) and sadly neither are the older women in the churches.
The end result?
Most women go into marriage knowing very little about being:
- a wife,
- a mother, and
- running a home
As a single Christian woman, do you long to get married? Do you long to take that walk down the aisle? Waiting is never easy. Rest assured, Your time will come! Grab this FREE Prayer Journal while you wait for God’s timing!
So, here are 3 skills to learn today to get better prepared:
The first skill to learn is how to cook simple and healthy meals (and also bake)
Yes, cook.
A family shouldn’t have to run on take out and store-bought meals!
Learn to cook!
Nothing is more fulfilling than preparing a meal, no matter how simple for those you love.
I remember my first attempt at cooking- rice and fried chicken for me and my nephews and niece, I was probably about 9/10- the rice was soft and burnt and the chicken was burnt and tasteless.
But guess what? I kept practicing. I got better. I kept watching my mother and my siblings when they were in the kitchen-the end result? We all can cook and keep house.
Maybe your experience is different-maybe you had no one to learn from or to be instructed by
BUT it isn’t too late to learn
Nothing will come close to the joy you will feel in having your husband and or your children in the kitchen with you cutting veggies, and preparing a meal.
Ladies, I believe this is 1 skill you need today-note this isn’t about the man.
This is about you
And you having the power to feed your family and yourself in a wholesome and healthy way
A homecooked meal is gold- no matter what it is
My husband, tells me that every day
And it feels good to hear it
It gives me a lot of pleasure to prepare a meal that we both enjoy-it builds intimacy, and communication and
the simple act of cooking creates a space to bond.
Don’t turn your nose up at this skill
The sustenance of your family is in your HANDS. You have the power.
I’m not telling you to create 5 course meals every day of the week-you’re busy, I know
But Simple, healthy and nutritious meals- 2 ingredients, 3 ingredients
Learning to cook, doesn’t make you the servant at home it REALLY makes you the MASTER.
The second skill to learn is how to clean and keep house
I know this may not be something you:
- want to do or
- enjoy doing- but it is necessary.
If you live alone, it is necessary
If you live with others, it is necessary
When I was growing up my mother gave me chores to do-all of us had chores that helped with running the house more efficiently; helped with keeping the house in order and helped to create the place where we were together that was clean and organised.
There was a place for everything- shoes, school bags, clothes
Dishes don’t grow legs and go to the sink they must be taken
They don’t get washed magically either somebody has to wash them
Ladies,
Be intentional about keeping your surroundings clean and in order
Hear what Proverbs 14:1 says,
The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish pulls it down with her hands.
Again
Hear Proverbs 31: 27 She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.
OK, so I know there are those of you here who may be saying-
I work hard, I work long hours,
I don’t need to learn that I can hire HELP-that’s fine
But don’t you know that keeping house is one of the things a man may be looking for in his wife?
Keeping your house clean and in order may not be
A desirable skill
Be easy to do
but it can be done, and it is a skill to learn even if you don’t see the need for it now but you may need it in the long run
No one wants to visit your house and it is a mess or it smells
Keeping your house clean and in order- creates the kind of atmosphere I believe God can delight in
Afterall He is a God of order- He isn’t chaotic and haphazard
When you know how to clean and keep house- you can teach your children and if your Mr. Right never learnt that skill you can teach him too
Everybody has a schedule these days. See if that works for you- e.g. Saturdays can be Laundry days
As a single Christian woman, do you long to get married? Do you long to take that walk down the aisle? Waiting is never easy. Rest assured, Your time will come! Grab this FREE Prayer Journal while you wait for God’s timing!
The third skill is learn is how to budget and be financially prudent
Budgeting means creating a spending plan for your money
Single girls need to learn how to budget too- start tracking every dollar if you are not already doing so.
Money is a tool to get you what you need-services, material possession etc.
There are Biblical principles that, if followed, will keep you out of debt and give you the freedom you desire when it comes to your finances.
Money problems have long been cited as one of the problems why couples have trouble in their marriage. You don’t want to be a statistic.
Take charge of your money mindset-put $ in its rightful place, a tool to get you what you need not a tool used to punish or manipulate or coerce in your relationships.
Scripture teaches about budgeting
Create a plan for your money, set goals, be wise:
- You are wise if you create a plan for your financial goal (Luke 14:28-30)
Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. Won’t you first sit down and estimate the cost to see if you have enough money to complete it? For if you lay the foundation and are not able to finish it, everyone who sees it will ridicule you, saying, ‘This person began to build and wasn’t able to finish. (NIV)
- You are wise if you set money aside for future expenses (1 Corinthians 16:2)
the first day of every week, each one of you should set aside a sum of money in keeping with your income, saving it up, so that when I come no collections will have to be made
- You are wise if you save your money (Proverbs 6:6-8)
Go to the ant, you sluggard; consider its ways and be wise! It has no commander, no overseer or ruler, yet it stores its provisions in summer and gathers its food at harvest.
- You are wise if you create a spending plan; it will help you get financially free (Proverbs 21:20)
The wise have wealth and luxury, but fools spend whatever they get.
- Building up an emergency fund is prudent (Proverbs 22:3)
The prudent see danger and take refuge, but the simple keep going and pay the penalty.
- You are wise if you understand how much you have and how much you will need (Proverbs 27:23;26)
Be sure you know the condition of your flocks, give careful attention to your herds; the lambs will provide you with clothing, and the goats with the price of a field.
- Your time and money should be spent wisely (Ephesians 5:15-16)
Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, making
the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil.
As a single Christian woman, do you long to get married? Do you long to take that walk down the aisle? Waiting is never easy. Rest assured, Your time will come! Grab this FREE Prayer Journal while you wait for God’s timing!
Ladies, learn to budget. Make a plan for your money. Be intentional.
Plan
Save
Be prepared for life’s uncertainties.
Budgeting is a skill you need now and will need in the future as you steward what God has provided for you and your family.
What’s more It is a skill you can share with your husband and your children as together you work together to steward what God has given you and your family.
Here is 1 bonus skill to learn-
- How to stay calm and not be led by emotions
So many times, you allow your emotions to lead you and when the dust settles you feel terrible and wish you could take back the things you said, or you wish you could have acted differently. Now is a good time to learn how to master your emotions
So here we go again
If you want to feel more purposeful and intentional while you wait for Mr. Right acquire these 3 skills:
- Learn how to cook simple and healthy meals- this skill will come in handy
- Learn to clean and keep house-do this for yourself, it will make a difference
- How to budget and be financially prudent- this a great skill to acquire especially in this day and age.